Under 18 dating
Alyssa didn’t meet this man at school or the mall—she met him on Tinder, the location-based dating app that lets you swipe right for “like” and left for “pass.” Once two people swipe right on each other, they’re matched and can send messages and move the interaction from online to IRL.
The company won’t reveal its exact number of users, but it did disclose that 2.5 percent are people ages 13 to 17.
An app called Spotafriend mimics the Tinder experience, but is exclusively available for teenagers between the ages of 13-19.“Allowing teens to use a dating app with a largely adult population is simply a bad idea: it invites danger.
We’re happy to see that Tinder is drawing this line, and we believe it will make younger users much safer,” says Spotafriend’s creator, Benoit Tessier.
“Don’t expect that everyone is telling the truth,” she warns. If they have Linked In, they might be too old.” Once you feel you’ve verified the other person’s identity, always meet in a public space first, she suggests.
Finally, Nissly adds, tell a trusted adult where you’re going, and make plans to check in afterward.
Unlike Tinder, Spotafriend claims to be an app for making friends rather than finding dates.
When me and my friends were teens, we mostly met potential dates, boyfriends, and girlfriends at school or through friends and family, which wasn’t exactly the fastest or most reliable process.
At age 19 I was not just dating, but also having sex with, a girl of 16. Hostile at first, she soon discovered that I was a generally law-abiding, ambitious, polite kid who didn’t smoke or drink.Alyssa, 17, a high school senior in Miami, was texting a new guy she thought was cute. New York magazine’s The Cut website described the Tinder crowd as “single people who hang out at bars,” and it’s become known for facilitating hookups and last-minute dates among those in their 20s and 30s.They were setting up a date when he sent a message that shocked her. To enter a bar, however, you usually have to be 21; the age of admission to Tinder is just 13—and Alyssa’s hardly the only teen on the app.This past August she started interning for Bumble—the app works like Tinder, but only women are allowed to initiate conversations—which entails promoting it at her school.She confesses her friends thought dating apps were “weird at first, but now they check Bumble like Snapchat and Instagram.” (The company says 10 percent of its users are under 18.)Among the 30-plus minors interviewed for this story, those who have tried dating apps say the main attraction is meeting someone they haven’t already known for years.